There are lots of amazing blog posts and articles that let you know 5 or even up to 10 ways to know if you’re ready to be in a long distance relationship. They say you need to be a good communicator or you need to be strong or you need to have an end plan, etc.
But truthfully when I was starting off my long distance relationship, I wasn’t strong nor was I very good at communication. I didn’t even have an end plan per say.
All I knew was that Cruz made me happy and I wanted nothing more than to be with him.
Even though I love my boyfriend so much, there were definitely times in the beginning of our relationship where I wondered if the distance was even worth it. A lot of people look up to our relationship today and are inspired by how we are still together.And if you look at our relationship at the surface from my blog posts or photos, it seems that this whole LDR thing was a breeze for us.
It’s the same for when you look at other long distance couples who’ve been together for a long time or have already closed the distance. With that said, I worry a lot about the people that are just starting out their long distance relationships and are beating themselves up for not being as good of a communicator or being as “strong” as me or the other long distance couples who have been doing this LDR thing for a while.
So for those of you just starting out, I want to tell you that it’s okay to not be strong and it’s okay to not be as strong of a communicator.
You don’t have to have this whole long distance thing figured out within the first few weeks or even months of your long distance relationship and you don’t have to be afraid to admit that you have fears and doubts of your relationship even working out.
Distance is hard and not all of us long distance couples jumped into our relationships with all the bravery and knowledge about making a long distance relationship work that we have today. Couples like us who’ve been together for a long time have all made numerous mistakes and faced many hardships in our relationship. And, from those mistakes and difficulties, we kept learning how to be strong and how to be better as individuals to make our relationship work.
Therefore, don’t get discouraged and keep trying. If the other people in LDR’s and me are able to do it, then so can you.
I’m going to end this post with this quote:
“No great love ever came without great struggle.”
This is probably the first ever LDR quote I read when I first discovered LDR quotes even existed back when I was just starting out my long distance relationship. It really helped me back then, so I hope it will help you too by reminding you that yes, the distance is worth it.
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