You know those people who are in love with just the idea of love? Yeah, don’t be one of those people.
It angers me when people look into getting into a relationship for just the lovey dovey feelings and butterflies in their stomach. It is not any worse than being in a relationship with someone just for sex. Don’t get me wrong, being in love with someone is amazing! However, there is a difference between being in love with the idea of love and being in love with the actual person you are in the relationship with.
So what’s the difference? People in love with just the idea of love want to indulge only in the good parts of a relationship: the cuddles on the couch, the good-morning/good-night texts, dinners under the moonlight etc. They forget that they are in a relationship with an actual person that has their own unique personality and flaws. There will be times when your significant other messes up. There will be times when you mess up. There will be disagreements which can turn into full-blown arguments. Then there will be times when your significant other is going through some bad days meaning that they won’t be as lovey dovey to you as they were during the good days. You have to expect that these things are part of being in relationship too and that you will inevitably have to go through it.
So, in other words, don’t “get going when the going gets tough.” Your significant other is not a disposable robot that is made to please you and always give you what you want in order for you to be happy.