***Disclaimer: I just want to make it clear that I know some couples have their own definitions and rules when it comes to cheating and may allow their significant other to date or be intimate with other people in certain ways. If there is DEFINITE consent for both you and your significant other to do the things that I mentioned not to do in this blog post, then dismiss it.
There’s no surprise that long distance relationships have zero physical intimacy. Many people put physical intimacy as one of the most important things in their relationship which is totally fine (Don’t let anyone tell you to be ashamed of that!). However, if you need that physical intimacy so much to the point where you cannot contain yourself with other people that you are physically attracted to then I suggest you re-consider being in a long distance relationship in the first place.
I get that you want your significant other’s touch, you miss their hugs, their kisses and hey, maybe you’re extremely horny some days or everyday who knows. But think of it this way– is a few minutes of pleasure worth risking your whole relationship? If yes, then please do your significant other a favor and break up with them before you go and start messing with other people. I have no judgement against people who need that physical intimacy, but cheating has no excuses whatsoever. I want to stress another important thing that is often not addressed which is cyber-cheating. Sorry folks that is considered cheating as well even though it is not “physical.” Sexting, having Skype sex or sharing nudes with another person online is just as bad as performing sexual acts with somebody in person. Don’t do that.
Cheating extends farther than just the sexual stuff. There are often times where we lust not only for sex, but for emotional intimacy. There will be times where your significant other is genuinely busy and will not be able to text you frequently or call you to have romantic Skype dates. You can’t go seek other partners to fill the void of loneliness. Same goes for instances where you have huge arguments with your significant other and things are rough between you two for awhile. It’s okay to want to seek comfort and advice from other people, but make sure that the people you seek that comfort and advice from are not other potential love interests.
In conclusion, I have two rules to help you determine if what you are doing is cheating:
- If it’s something you feel that you have to hide, you already know it’s wrong. A really common example of this is secretly talking to someone that makes your significant other uncomfortable whether that person is an ex or that person is someone your significant other knows is actively trying to pursue you even when you have made it clear that you are in a relationship.
- And lastly, switch positions. Think about if your significant other was doing whatever it is that you’re doing right now. If you wouldn’t want them to be doing it, then congratulations, what you’re doing is probably wrong and hurtful. If you don’t want them watching Netflix and chilling with somebody else, then you shouldn’t be doing it either. It’s as simple as that.